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Thanksgiving

Posted by David A. Couper, MA on November 23, 2017 8:14 PM

In the US 11/23 is the day that people say thanks and express gratitude.  We also eat a lot and spent a lot but that’s a different story.

Expressing gratitude for some can be hard.  They may have suffered a loss – a job, a home, or a loved one.  Being thankful is far from what they are feeling.  Other find it hard to be grateful because they feel that they are not doing enough, not achieving their goals, or being good enough.And others look at the world with its poverty, disease, and violence and wonder what we have to be grateful for.

I too feel like that.  My partner of 14 years passed away on 11/25/2012 and so Thanksgiving for my son and I are can be bitter sweet - happy to be with friends and family enjoying the day but also sad for what is missing from that picture.

But I am grateful for what I have learned from loss:

  1. Be present in every moment.  This moment is precious and we don’t know what the next moment may bring.
  2. Don’t live in the future.  Yes, you can make plans but if all your joy is waiting until a day sometime then we are missing out. 
  3. Be brave.  Take risks.  Be courageous.  Facing your worst fears brings out the best in you.  Take a baby step and see what happens.
  4. Ask for help.  People like to help.  And if they don’t maybe you don’t need them in your life.
  5. Live your life’s purpose.  Work on doing the things that bring you joy or happiness.

So I’m grateful for the learning that loss has given me and the opportunity to live life to the fullest.  Happy Thanksgiving!

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